There’s so much pressure on you. You have a lot of responsibility … people rely on you to be on your game, all the time.
But you’re consumed by anxiety, which is wrecking your sleep, and your emotions are all over the place. You’re either crying, or impatient and angry.
You’re ashamed of how you’re treating the people you love. You’re struggling on so many levels, but you don’t know where to turn to feel better.
And you’re so tired.
Feeling worried and overwhelmed often means you’re just not comfortable in your skin. Everything feels off — people who used to be comforting, work that used to be satisfying and fulfilling, downtime that was relaxing and nurturing … you’re not finding relief anywhere.
When you feel this way, your mind keeps telling you to do more, try this, jump off the edge of that (metaphorical) cliff. You’ll try almost anything to feel better.
Gosh, I’ve been there so many times in my life. Can I just tell you? Jumping off a metaphorical cliff sometimes means you end up face-planting on the bottom of the Grand Canyon. And it’s a long, hard slog back up the trail.
When I was younger, I didn’t know how to be comfortable, not even for a New York minute, when everything seemed to be falling apart. Constantly worried, I’ve been a hot mess more than once in my life, which just isn’t that much fun.
I had to learn how to find those tiny islands of peaceful sanctuary resting inside, waiting to be discovered.
The good news? Anxiety help with a trained professional in Santa Fe, NM, can teach you anxiety management techniques. Also, anxiety help is available no matter where you live in New Mexico with online therapy.
This allows you to move beyond feeling constantly anxious and worried into a life that reminds you every day that peace and happiness are possible.
Struggling With Being a Perfectionist Makes Anxiety Worse
Everyone has different internal voices, or parts, or energies. These different parts tell us different messages. And even more confusing, those messages often conflict with each other.
“Everything is great, you’re doing really well, keep going” vs “Are you kidding me? That’s all you could do?! They’re way ahead of you. That’s good enough. Get going! You’ve gotta do more. Now.”
Confusing, right? Which messages are you going to believe?
Those thoughts — sometimes very loud ones — telling you all sorts of shaming, not-good-enough, do more messages? That’s your inner Perfectionist. And if you believe those messages, you’ll always feel like a failure or an Imposter, your anxiety will increase, and you’ll give up. Because it’s just too hard.
Recognize any of these messages below?
- No, not good enough.
- No, work harder.
- That’s not it.
- You’re a total loser, a complete POS.
- Can’t you get it together?!
- Do more, do it better, do it right now.
- You’re losing ground.This isn’t good enough.You gotta work harder.
- More, ffs. Now!
Seriously, my nervous system got excited just writing these words! And maybe yours did, too, just reading them. The internalized voice of the Perfectionist, constantly pushing you, telling you you’re not good, is one of the biggest contributors to increased anxiety.
The good news is that you can learn to re-write those Perfectionist stories and change your internal messages. You can be the one in charge of your choices. You don’t have to believe, or even listen to that super powerful, self-suffocating, fear-based story that tells you if you’re not perfect, it’s not good enough.
When you work with a counselor, you can learn how to hear those internal messages, and begin choosing the healthy ones that support your success. Anxiety help in Santa Fe NM can turn your life around.
Imposter Syndrome Makes You Think You’re Not Good Enough
Imposter Syndrome is another internal voice that tells you you’re def not good enough, and you better not let anyone else find out about it. It causes you to try and stay very small, so that no one notices you.
In addition to being too scared to go for something or someone you want, and spending most of your energy trying to hide, you’ll also be living with a ton of shame.
It’s miserable when Imposter Syndrome is running your life for you! You’re full of self-doubt, scared, and missing incredible opportunities to be your best self all the time. Inside your mind, you somehow learned to tell yourself that you’re not as good as other people, no matter what you do.
If you struggle with Imposter Syndrome, your anxiety is going to be higher than the person who knows her worth and value, and knows how to keep reaching for the moon, if that’s what she wants. The good news is that CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and DBT (dialectical behavior therapy) are powerful techniques you can use to overcome Imposter Syndrome.
The Santa Fe Therapist Approach to Anxiety Treatment
I’m Melanie, the Santa Fe Therapist, and I love working with *stressed* women struggling to get to the other side of crazy anxiety and overwhelm.
Profoundly positive things begin happening when you learn how to calm down your nervous system and understand how to manage your emotions.
Together, we’ll figure out what’s going on and what you need to begin feeling more in control and less stressed and overwhelmed. All the new neuroscience research gives us better and more effective ways to work with anxiety.
One of the most powerful ways to do that is to understand how your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors are intertwined. When you learn how to
- make friends with your feelings,
- manage your thoughts,
- explore new anxiety management behaviors in a safe setting —
- your life will begin changing in positive, healthy ways.
You’ll start believing in yourself again.
In balancing the science of therapy with the art of healing, I’ll create an innovative program for you that sets you on a path of success from the very first session.
My compassionate, creative approach weaves together my ability to hear below the surface of the words, advanced degrees, years of specialized training, professional experience, and my own personal healing around anxiety and overwhelm.
My clients usually work with me once a week for 8 to 12 months. As we work together, you’ll be getting tools for long-term success and learning and using strategies and techniques to serve you for many years.
You’ll work hard for sure. But won’t all be horrible and terrible! I love sharing ideas about good books and films and laughing together once in a while.
How to Get Anxiety Help in Santa Fe, NM
Counseling for anxiety can make a world of positive difference in your life. When you reach out for anxiety help in Santa Fe NM, you’re making an investment in yourself that can change in your life in the best of ways.
All you have to do is send me an email to schedule a free, 15-minute phone consultation: firstname.lastname@example.org. Let’s get you feeling better as quickly as possible.
The Santa Fe Therapist Offers Online Counseling in New Mexico
Online therapy helps busy women find the time away from day-to-day pressures to calm their nervous systems. It also makes it easy and convenient to process emotions and learn new neuroscience techniques to cope with challenges, heal the past, and begin building your future.
I strongly believe in the power of online counseling. Along with the research that proves its effectiveness, I see the positive benefits for clients every week. Click here if you’ve got questions about online therapy.
Online counseling from anywhere in New Mexico, including Santa Fe, Albuquerque, Taos, Los Alamos, Pecos, Las Vegas, Tesuque and El Dorado.
Other Services From The Santa Fe Therapist
The Santa Fe Therapist specializes in several areas of health, wellbeing, healing and recovery. We know that one size never fits all. Our services are individualized to each client, and are based on your values, your needs and desires, and your goals.
We offer individual adult counseling and guidance in Santa Fe NM for: