Women & depression … it’s such a complex issue. And there can be hidden triggers lurking underneath the surface, causing the depression.
It’s complicated, in part, because …
- there are several different types of depression;
- it can mimic other conditions;
- depression can happen as a result of a one-time-only experience, never to return.
Sometimes it can develop because of a mostly invisible, underlying issue. If that happens, it’s easy to overlook the mostly invisible issue.
One possible hidden depression trigger is being a highly sensitivity person (HSP).
Are You Too Sensitive?
If you’re a wonderfully sensitive person, noises, lights, fabrics, and/or other people’s energy (among almost any other sensory thing) can just be too much for your system.
- if you think there’s something “wrong” with you because you’re so sensitive;
- if you’ve been told to just get over it!, or
- think a big party is torture;
- if you feel too weird, and isolated, and alone;
- if you sometimes wonder if you were dropped off into the wrong family back in the day;
- if you’ve never been taught how to handle your beautiful nature in a culture that’s exceedingly insensitive …
… well, I think that’d be a set-up for feeling depressed (or anxious; or both), don’t you?
And then, there are the possible reactions to and neurochemical results of how your body/mind/psyche processes all that incoming, too-much sensory stimulation.
Depression may be one of those results.
You’re Not Doomed to Depression
In an interview with renowned Canadian psychiatrist, Dr. Gabor Mate, regarding Robin Wiliams’s suicide, Dr. Mate explains:
Genes are activated or turned off by the environment, including in cases of suicide, as brilliant Canadian studies have shown. Nobody is born doomed to depression and nobody is born with low self-esteem. … .
[Robin Williams’s] warmth and vulnerability and his stupendous creative genius as a comic all rested on his extraordinary sensitivity. A sensitive person, by definition, feels more than others. A mildly noxious stimulus that may cause slight discomfort to a more stolid personality can inflict agonizing pain to one with a hypersensitive temperament. Temperament is significantly conditioned by genes. How it unfolds depends upon formative life events.
His found his father “frightening” and, like many children who feel intimidated at home, he was bullied in school. He was emotionally alone.
What’s Your Truth?
Exquisite sensitivity isn’t a character flaw, or a disability. And it isn’t something to be ashamed of. But, we’re taught exactly these things.
Sensitive children are often bullied, both at home and at school. Sensitive adults can struggle their entire lives, wondering what’s wrong with them.
When, in fact, the right question to ask is, “How do I live from my truth?”
If you think you might be an HSP, you’re not alone. It’s estimated that 20% of people fit the criteria for being an HSP.
Here’s one way to explore whether or not you might be an HSP. It’s a free online quiz from the psychologist, Dr. Elaine Aron, who (literally) wrote the book on being highly sensitive.
Isn’t It Time to Start Living From Your Truth?
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I’m Melanie, the Santa Fe Therapist. I think of emotional health and wellbeing as “loving yourself into wholeness.” Some people feel that it’s also spiritual healing.
In my experience, learning to love yourself can be a lifelong journey. Emotional and spiritual healing and wellbeing happen when you deepen into your true self, uncovering, processing, and releasing layer after layer of learned self-doubt, even self-hatred.
Then, you can begin replacing those unhealthy layers with what’s good and true and authentic for you.
It’s really about understanding how to feel emotionally safe in a dangerous world. You’ll experience freedom when you know how to recognize being connected with something grander (and more important) than your tiny, ego-based monkey-mind thinking. That connection can be as simple and beautiful as loving and caring for your doggo.
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